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I made my blog public two years ago, after a life-changing surgery rendered me bedbound for a couple of weeks.  I went from being a physician to a patient.  This transformation and healing process became the springboard for my desire to share this life experience with you all.  After recovery, my roles of being a career woman, a parent, and a spouse is univeral; so I just kept on writing.

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My Grand Day Off

You are probably thinking, Spa day!  You know, I thought about that too, until I thought about the time and financial commitment I needed to allocate for such luxury and how much unhappier I’d become after such allocation.  So scratch that!  Oh yes, and if I were the director of goop, I might as well throw in a day trip to say, Italy! It will be a smooth transatlantic flight on a personal jet, with a cool off at the stunning Lake Garda, and a fantastic locally-sourced meal at the hotel restaurant in Locanda San Vigilio.  Alas, I am but a common woman; I don’t have a team of personal assistants and unlimited budget, so let’s be more realistic, shall we?

I haven’t had a day off for as long as I can remember.  Week days, well,  yours and mine are surely hectic and weeknights even worse.  Weekends are usually filled to the brim with activities on the home front, or business meetings on the career front.  Lately I’ve been feeling like I needed a day to regroup, to find my center of balance.  Today I finally took the plunge and did just that: took a day off to recenter myself.  I decided not to structure it at all.  After dropping Plumster off at school, I decided to let it free flow and see what the day took me.  In the process, I found five of my favorite activities to do on a day off:

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1. Exericse: nothing gets your feel-good hormone going like a good exercise.  Alright, alright, I suppose there are other ways, but I digress.  Like I say, this is a solo kind of day.  I’ve been using Jillian Michael’s DVD in our living room.  Phase 1 might seem easy, but she gradually increases the intensity, and boy, 30 minutes of workout really does crank up your endorphins and you are left with nothing but happiness, sweaty workout clothes, and a sense of accomplishment.  Walking is another great form of exercise.  A walk along the beach, in the park, or in the neighborhood is always a great option!  I ended up doing 30 minutes of Jillian Michael’s, followed by my good intention to walk the puppy around the neighborhood which turned into a full-on run around a nearby park.  Endorphins, oh yeah!

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2. Laundry and house chores.  I know, I know, from my post on ironing, you might get the misconception that I hate anything house-chore related.  Quite the contrary!  Nothing calms me down like a sparkly clean house.  I’ve been doing my own laundry since high school.  Sorting, folding and putting away laundry, as well as hand-washing dishes have a therapeutic, soothing effect on me.  Especially hand-washing dishes: it brings a closure to a well executed meal.  I decide to start my day off with a clean kitchen and empty laundry baskets.  I start the first load in the washer.  While the laundry is going, I clear the cleaned dishes away; hand wash the breakfast plates and cups; sweep the kitchen floor, which inevitably extend to the dining room, the hallway, the bathroom.  Then I swiffer the entire floor space; sort of like the “if you give a mouse a cookie” story: if you give Monki a broom, she’d want to sweep the entire house.  After she sweeps the entire house, she’d want to swiffer the entire floor.  When she’s done with the floor, she’d want to rearrange the furniture.  When she’s done rearranging the furniture….  You get the point.

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3. House Finance.  These days with the Dow Jones Industridal Average dancing all over the graph, up-and-down oil prices, prime rates, 401k, S&P500, Janet Yellen’s inclusion of exclusion of the word “patience”, etc etc, it’s hard to get a grip on retirement plans.  I am still trying to figure this one out.  I have friends who use a financial advisor and swear by them; I have friends who don’t.  We are on the fence.  But on this day off, it’s time to start thinking about such mature and responsible matter.

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4. Catch up on readings.  My go-to guilty pleasures are Architectural Digest and Real Simple magazines.  Since I haven’t had a day off in years, my stack goes way back… to 2013!  Now that’s a big stack to catch up!

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5. Tea time!  Well, some people might prefer TEE time I suppose: the smell of fresh cut grass and fresh air does hold the promise of a good time.  And if we are not in the middle of a drought, I might even be encouraged to give it a swing.  But while Southern California is in one of the worst drought ever, where restaurants might not even be able to serve you water without you begging for it, I don’t suppose maintaining those Bermuda greens is ecologically sound.  Further more, I will probably feel a slight tinge of guilt being surrounded by the water thirsty, carefully manucured link.  But I digress.  TEA time!  I grew up in Taiwan with a healthy sense of pride in our Formosa high mountain tea.  Tea leaves harvested in spring, hand-picked and hand-rolled in Alishan is prized among tea enthusiasts.  Mom gifted me with this travel tea pot/cup set because we enjoy drinking tea that much.  After a day of exercise, house chores, financial balancing and magazine binging, it’s time to sit down and brew myself an aromatic pot of Alishan tea.

Wait a second, you are scracthing your head asking, you have a day off and you spend the day cleaning house, paying bills, exercising and drinking a pot of tea?!  I suppose if I have more time and less cleaning to do, I’d enjoy going to the local cafe, shopping for cute spring outfits, getting a pedicure, strollling along the boardwalk, discovering a new favorite restaurant, getting a massage, trying a new recipe, or even meeting up with a friend!  But like I say, this is a day to recenter, regroup and recharge.  While I normally have to cram all these house chores between the hours of 9pm and midnight, I now have the whole day to leisurely go through my chores.  At the end of the day, I look at my clean house and no, I do not regret spending my precious day off cleaning my house.  Because you see, in the process of cleaning and decluttering, I was also checking off my to do list.  With a bunch of items checked off, my mind finds its center and I get to enjoy a night off later!

What do you like to do on your day off?  How do you find your center of balance?

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When I Grow Up I Want to be the President, a Girl President

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Conversation during breakfast:

Plum: When I grow up, I want to be the President of the United States.

Me: Whoa, really?  Wow, that’s great.  Why?

Neither Monkey King nor I are politically active.  We vote and talk about news around the world while listening to NPR during our commmute, and that’s about it.  This is an ambition out of nowhere.  But hey, if my little girl aspires to be the President of the United States, I should be supportive.

Plum: I read that the White House has a bowling alley, a swimming pool, a movie theater, and thirty five bathrooms!!  And on the top floor, there is a game room with a pool table!  I bet they have an air hockey too.  I like air hockey.

Phew!  Perhaps there is hope yet for her not to be a politician after all.

Mulling this possibility further, she questioned: if I am married when I get elected, can I still be the President or will my husband be the President?

Whoa!  Of course you will be!  I am already irritated with her future husband who can possibly take away her hard work by virtue of being male.

Plum: I think Girl President will be special.  President Obama is the first black President, but that is just the color of your skin.  A girl is entirely different.  Girls can give birth to life!

I think of all the ways Plum is a great leader: she likes to organize and lead team activities; she stands up to bullies in school from taunting other kids; her kindness and compassion; her strong sense of justice and fairness.  Our country will be pretty lucky to have Plumster as our Girl President.

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Top 5 Questions To Ask Before Spending The Night…At A Museum

Have you ever seen one of those “Overnight Adventure in the Museum” advertisement, and thought to yourself, “Hummm… that looks like fun.  I wonder if we will have fun doing that as a family?”  Well, the Monkey Clan did just that this weekend!  These educational sleepovers don’t come cheap, averaging five times the admission price.  Before you plan that trip, before you commit your money and the whole night, ask yourself these five essential questions:

1. Do you enjoy staying up late into the night with your child?

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My idea of how the night would unfold involved exploring the corridors with educational activities, curious minds, and lots of excitement and fun and happiness.  However, I did not account for all the energy that was required for something THIS fun!  By the time 9pm rolled around, I was deperately looking for a shot of espresso in a MUSEUM where no food nor drink was allowed, ever.  I clutched the Overnight Fun Schedule, with “Light Snack” scheduled at 9pm; “Nature Journaling in Age of Mammals” scheduled at 10pm; and “Scavenger Hunt in the Dino Hall” scheduled at 11pm; and felt a sense of panic.  I asked our camp counselor why they didn’t sell coffee at this event.  They would’ve made a killing there.

2. Do you enjoy sleeping on a cold, hard floor?

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Now, one thing you should know is that we have never gone camping before, but have been very curious and enthusiastic about the IDEA of camping.  We own a tent that was a wedding gift, which we looked forward to, but have never used.  We have brand new sleeping bags that we bought soon after the said gifted tent, but have never used those sleeping bags either.  So you see, it was just an inevitable event waiting to happen that we should camp out in a museum to wade ourselves into the realm of camping.  Let me just say, that cold, hard, concrete floors are NOT comfortable to sleep on.  I don’t care how thick that yoga pad I brought to lay under my sleeping bag was, museum concrete floors were meant to be walked on.

3. Do you enjoy sleeping in a cold room?  I am not sure what the ideal temperature is for fossil preservation; but after tonight, I am pretty sure that it must be really cold.  In our Dino Room, where it proudly housed various dinosaur fossils found around the world, the temperature was set to keep the fossils cold, (bone) dry, and happy.  We huddled in our sleeping bags, zipped all the way up to our  heads.

4. Do you enjoy sleeping with the lights on?  Though the bright overhead lights were turned off (finally!  thankfully!) at midnight, the dinosaur display lightings were not.  This was the view I was staring at, most of the night, because I couldn’t fall asleep with the lights on.

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5. Do you enjoy hearing various alarms going off in all corners of the room?  Granted, I went to a medical school where the overnight call room in the county hospital was just this one room packed with beds along the walls.  Overnight calls meant staggering into the room whenever you got some downtime, and waking up whenever someone paged you, or your other unfortunate housestaff compatriots.  But that was years ago, and I was ON CALL.  Come to think of it, the whole Overnight at the Museum did feel like an overnight call: the anticipation and excitement, educational activities, chaotic shouts, sleep deprivation, and oh yes, alarms and noises going off in all corners of the room.  Plumster called it a night around 9pm, declaring that she was going to bed.  I had no idea that the room we were sleeping in was part of the late night scavenger hunt (!).  I woke up to kids shrieking and counselors shouting.  In a fog, I thought I was back in my medical school call room, doing my Ob/Gyn rotation.

Bonus question: Is this the Daylight Saving weekend?  And if you answered “yes” to all of the above questions, where you enjoy going to bed after midnight with kids running and shrieking, on a bed layed out on a rock hard concrete floor, in a cold room full of dinosaur bones, and noises and phone alarms going off in all corners of the room; as if that was not enough fun, go ahead and pick the daylight saving weekend for this overnight trip!  You will get to wake up an extra hour early the next day!

Lucky for us, even though I did not check “yes” for any of the above questions, and we weren’t even aware that this weekend was the one where we lose an hour of sleep, we had an AWESOME time.  We started with a big welcome in the Northern American Mammal Hall, where the room was filled to the brim with families and boy scouts.

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We were assigned to the Triceratops group.  The Triceratops group’s first order of business: “Fossil Casting in the Otis Booth Pavillion”.  Plum chose to make a casting of a dinosaur claw:

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Next came “Behind the Scenes Tour with the Puppeteers in the Discovery Center”

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These wonderful puppeteers showed the children how they put on their dinosaur “puppets” like a backpack and how they moved the eyes and legs and how they roar.  The children were mesmerized and thoroughly entertained.

The puppeteers were followed by a guided “Secrets & Legends of the Museum Tour in the Foyer”.  Our guide took us to many “STAFF ONLY” rooms and passages and told the children scary ghost stories.  At one point, the guide asked if someone could go into a room first to see if there is “anyone” (wink wink, perhaps a ghost?) in the room.  Plumster happily volunteered, among ten other kids much older than her.  The tweens muttered among themselves incredulously, “did that LITTLE GIRL just walk in to see if there is a ghost in that room for all of us?!”  She came out triumphantly and exclaimed, “Nope!  I didn’t see ANYONE in there!”

Despite the late night and the discomfort, this, this glorious view greeted me in the morning:

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As the sun rose through the window, I thought to myself, “I am waking up in a MUSEUM full of dinosaur bones.  How fabulously cool is that?!”  As I walked into the gift shop, what is that aroma I smell dancing in the air?  COFFEE!!

To those of you who want to take on this challenge, and I highly recommend that you do, the key ingredients to making an Overnight at the Museum (or Acquarium, Zoo, Farm, or whatever else they can think of) a success are: air mattress, warm blankets, a good night’s rest the night before, and ear plugs!  Bon voyage!

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Restaurant Revisited: Gjusta on Air

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Just caught Jonathan Gold’s review on Gjusta this morning on the radio!  Not to brag or anything, but I did mine last year.  During our recent snowboard trip, I picked up enough smoked salmon and herbed cream cheese to feed five families on a cozy Sunday morning.  Everyone raved and loved it and asked me where I got the fish.  Well, go to Gjusta!  It’s a bakery; it’s a delicatessan; it’s a coffee shop; it’s a juice bar; it’s a market; it’s whatever you make it to be.  Bon appetit!

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Can I Talk To Daddy?

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Monkey King’s been having conference calls at night recently.  Conversation that took place following Plum’s bath tonight:

Plum: Is Daddy on the phone with India?

Me: No

Plum: Is Daddy on the phone with Spain?

Me: No

Plum: Is Daddy on the phone with Germany?

Me: No

Plum, eyes all lit up: Can I go talk to Daddy?!!!

Me: Yes

Plum: DADDY!!!  YOU ARE NOT ON THE PHONE WITH ANYONE!!  I am here to talk to you!

 

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Rainbow in the Rain

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It’s pouring cats and dogs here in Los Angeles.  Somehow with the angle of the sunset, we caught a brilliant rainbow in the rain from our window.  The rainbow vanished as soon as it appeared.  We stood there, the three of us, amazed at this transient beauty.

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There Are Some Really Nice People Out There

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I went out for a quick lunch during an all-day conference today.  Upon walking out of the restaurant, I noticed that the light drizzle had turned into full-on pouring rain.  I ran into a “Traveler’s Store” two doors down and asked if they had any umbrella.  “No, sorry, we are all sold out,” said the clerk.  I ran into a book store next; they were all sold out as well.  So did the clothing store and the grocery store.  Apparently, nobody had an umbrella to sell in this side of town.

Next came a small shoe repair shop, and I thought to myself, “I might as well go in and see if the shoe repair shop sells umbrellas!”  The shoe repair shop keeper said with amusement that yes indeed, he had one umbrella left!

“Great, thanks so much!  I’ll take it.  How much is it?”  I nearly shrieked with relief.

“That will be three dollars,”   he replied.

What a steal!

I looked into my bag, and saw with a panic that I only had two dollars in cash.  As you know, Chinese New Year had just passed, so I had given my daughter my one twenty dollar bill for her CNY red envelope.  I stood there in my nice conference clothes and nice black leather business bag but no three dollars in my hand.  “humm…can I charge it?”  I asked the shoe repair shop keeper, now feeling a lot stupid and less relieved than a moment ago.

“You want to charge THREE DOLLARS?”  asked the shop keeper incredulously.

I looked into my wallet. “I only have two dollars, oh wait, I have three quarters here!”  The shop keeper smiled and said, “that’s alright.”

“Wait, I found another nickle.  Woa, wait, and I have a dime!” I digged out the loose change from my purse, and held out a total of $2.90 in my hand.  “That’s alright, that’s alright,” he said kindly and took the two dollars and three quarters.   He handed me the one and only umbrella that hasn’t been sold in this side of town, and smiled warmly at me.

“Thank you thank you thank you!”  I walked out of the shop feeling dry, warm and protected.  Protected from the cynicism, greed, anger, disatifsaction and whatever negativity of this world.  There are really nice people out there, who are honest and kind and generous; who are not out to make extra money from you in a moment of desperation.

I looked around me then back at the store, and somehow half expected it to disappear save for a glow of light as evidence of Buddha or angel or some sort of magical being as testiment to holiday miracles.  Nope, the elderly shop keeper was still sitting there by the window, smiling and waving at me.

I smiled back.  There are some really nice people out there in this world.

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EATS: Chinese New Year Supper for a Busy Mother

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Every year I vow to take Chinese New Year off from work to celebrate the biggest holiday from my childhood.  One thing or another would always come up, and I’d vow to really take the day off next year.  This year was no exception.  I had a hectic clinic schedule filled with patients and meetings all day.  By the time 4:30pm rolled around, I was still trying to leave work so that I can go home and make my family a nice CNY dinner.

I ran out during lunch to gather whatever ingredients I could find in our local Asian grocery store.  Based on what I found, this is the CNY dinner menu I came up with: Longevity Noodle with Spicy Minced Pork and Bok Choy, Beef Bone Soup, Whole Fish with Ginger and Scallion and last but definitely not least, Susie’s carrot cake picked up on the way home.

Preparation took almost an hour and a half

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Here you see all six burners going full gas.  This is where my PhD bench science training came in handy where you could often find me running full gas all over the lab: my fission yeast growing in the incubator, bacteria culture multiplying in the shaker, PCR running, protein extract thawing on ice, Western gel poured and setting on the bench, meanwhile I’d be busy making the solutions needed to run my Western by the sink.  I suppose I should appreciate our current tiny galley kitchen because at least everything is within arm’s reach!

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Dinner is served!

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Longevity Noodle with Spicy Minced Pork and Bok Choy (top view)

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Enjoying my Longevity Noodle with Spicy Minced Pork and Bok Choy

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Whole Fish with Ginger and Scallion (recipe here)

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I don’t even know what kind of fish this was.  I was in such a hurry during my 20 minute excursion trying to get everything I needed.  I saw two whole fish left in the store and grabbed one of them.  If you could tell me what this was, I’d really appreciate it because I’d like to get this fish again!

And there you have it.  A busy mother’s guide to Chinese New Year!  We had the dumplings on CNY Eve and golden oranges all throughout the CNY holiday season.

Happy Chinese New Year everyone!

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Top 5 Things (This) Beginner Snowboarders Hate

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I’ve decided to give snowboard a try in my advanced age.  We even took three trips this year, riding through crazy conditions including in pouring rain and sleet last weekend, and under scorching hot sun with dry patches of dirt and slushes of melted snow this weekend.  Oh, and did I mention that the 20+ year-old bindings that I inherited from Monkey King from his college days BROKE in the middle of my lesson?  Which part of the binding you asked? It was the big strap that holds your foot down to the board!  What a sensation to all of a sudden feel my right foot air-borne, as I turned from my toe edge to ride flat down-hill on the way to heel edge!

With too many bruises to count and the associated pain, here are my top 5 most hated things as a beginner snowboarder:

  1. Pointing us to the wrong trails.  So you think all easy runs are the same: green, blue, they all might as well be labeled “bunny slope” in your book. To us, the main difference is how hard we fall and how frequently we fall. So when we are making our runs and you know I’ve asked for a green run, please don’t point towards the blue one and say, “it’s this way.”  I can read too, you know!  Ditto for the lifts.   I nearly had a stroke when I heard Monkey King whispered, “oops, I think we are on the wrong lift.   Humm…”  And yes, the reason I got off the lift in such an extraordinary fashion–kneeling down on the ground as soon as I landed– was because I was paralyzed with fear.  I think I cracked my tailbone on my way down during that run.  But hey, thanks for making sure that I didn’t go down the black diamond at the fork!  Much appreciated!
  2. People strapping on at the bottom of a lift drop-off line. When you get off the lift, get out of the way!  There are benches and banks on the side for you to strap on. It’s anxiety inducing enough trying to get off the lift, we don’t want not crashing into you to become our top priority when we are already really good at crashing without any obstacles. There is only enough space for people to get off the lift heading straight, followed by a gentle J turn. That’s it. There is no room for you to sit your a$# down in that tiny real estate.  I crashed more times than I cared for because of these inconsiderate people.
  3.  Crashing down and taking us with you.  I get it when you are flailing, your arms go up and you want to grab onto whatever it is you think might help you with your unavoidable fall.  Trust me, grabbing onto us is definitely not going to help you with that.  You will end up hurting more with our weight on top of you, and hurting us in the process too.
  4.  Sitting in the middle of a run. If you just fell, fine, take a moment, regroup yourself before picking yourself back up again. We get that. But if you are going to sit there and chat with your friends about their summer vacation plans, remove yourselves away from the traffic! You don’t park your car in the middle of a highway, so why are you just sitting there in the middle of a high traffic zone full of beginners who are delicately balanced on some very slippery material. In fact, this is even worse: there is no metal armor protecting your entire body except for a helmet.
  5. Shooting down the slope with a death wish, with no intention of hitting the brakes until you caught an edge and run the huge risk of taking us with you (see #3 above). This is by far, the most dangerous part of this winter sport. I’ve had teenage boys shooting down so close by me that knocked me off my course, only to crash right in front of me a few feet away.  So while I was rebalancing myself, I had to make a quick turn to avoid a mass pile-up.  That, my friend, was no small feat considering I just got off the wrong lift, and almost headed towards the black diamond right about a minute ago.

Despite the many death defying incidents, bruises and pain, I can’t stop thinking about snowboarding.  Sure, I have bruises on parts of my body that I didn’t know I could get bruises on, but the thrill I hit when I finally linked my “S” turns, even as the rain was pouring down sheets of water over my helmet, was so exchilirating that I screamed with a tremendous sense of accomplishment.  Along with two other women who took the lesson with me, we laughed and high-fived, and pumped our fists as the sky darkened and riders thinned.  When I look back at our season thus far, I mainly think about how happy and giddy Plumster and Monkey King looked as they took off ahead of me, one after another, smooth and graceful.

I also fantasize how I can get better so that I can move on to the promise land of unpopulated pristine powder.  And perhaps if we can even be gifted with a bluebird day, both to soften my falls and soothe my bruised ego, I’d much appreciate that as well.

 

Photo credit: taken by Monkey King from the top of the Sierra, becase you know, it will take me a few more years to get there.

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